Desperate?

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So today morning I was at a Medical Store for buying medicine for usual cold, and the next thing which happened didn’t shake me but surely made me raise the question on the current generation. The incident was, a girl in her sweet sixteen comes up and ask for a contraceptive pill. Have we become desperate enough that we are exploring sex as if it is just a casual thing?

The next thing I know I got the flashback of when I first kissed a girl. The first question that struck my mind was, what age I was when I had my first kiss? It was in my early 22s, surely it was a special girl but the thing was we both were mature enough of what we are doing. I am not trying to say I’m some saint who did things on right time. But surely trying out things with someone at a really early age and taking contraceptive pills in early age will bring issues in the later stage of the life when you’ll be really seeking to conceive a child (which is the best feeling you may surely have).

Roam around the lover spots in your city and you’ll find at least 25% couple who are physically involved with each other in public. That’s completely fine to show love to that special one but we should know when and where we are doing so, there’s nothing wrong with showing affection to someone we know in front of other people but at the same time we should realise in what mindset of people we are in, are they open minded than cheap thinking people who may just pass a comment like “Wow, great live show! No need to watch porn tonight.” (I’ve actually heard this line getting used for a couple while I was movie theatre with my friends)

A decade before, couples were really shy to holds hands in public and now we are on edge of making love in public, sorry I said making love, rather I should say having sex. Now with an eye towards the western world approach we’ve started taking things in a lighter way. One of the example which strike while writing so is that due to the climatic condition in the west women wears a bikini for so-called Sunbath. Whereas we do not need such a trend because it’s warmer here. But we fail to recognize this reality and think that we’re being oppressed when not being supported.

One thing is for sure we all have surely lost of making moments special because we are seeking sexual pleasure rather than seeking gala moment just at the fitting time. Anytime someone tries to seek advice from me over the topic of sex only speech gets played in my mind from a very infamous movie, 17 Again. 

That tiny speech is “No. No. You know what? He’s right. He’s right. I don’t need one. You know why? You know why I don’t need one? Because there’s no one I’m in love with. It’s called ‘making love’ isn’t it? Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but I think that means you do it with someone you love… and preferably when you’re married. You know? When you’re ready to take that love and turn it into a baby.Because that’s what love is. It’s that first moment when you hold your baby girl and you didn’t know that anything could be so small or so delicate and you feel that tiny heartbeat and you know that you couldn’t love anything more in the whole world. And you hope that you can do right by that little girl and always be there to catch her when she falls and that nothing ever hurts her. Not a broken arm, or a bad dream, or a broken heart.” (Full Script / Youtube Clip)

I’d a friend who was just in a relationship so that he can sleep with the girl every now and then, I spoke to him once what exactly are you trying to seek with this kinda relation, he simply answered it is better to be a sex addict than being a drug addict. That answer of his shook me, not because he felt sex is better than drug but he felt sex should be an addiction which he should enjoy on regular basis.

There are many such incidences which I’ve heard from girls and guys while growing up and their perspective on what sex is for them, and every time I come across the views it makes me think only one thing. Have we become so desperate for sex?

What are we actually doing? Does anyone know?

“I guess it’s exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex — yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It’s healthy, it’s natural, it’s what we are here to do.” – Cameron Diaz

Peace! ~ αm

 

 

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Imperfectn!

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Perfection? We all seek the perfection in everything, the things we buy, the things we fall in love with, the person who wants to be a part of life nearly everything. But are we ourselves perfect?

Before answering yes, let’s go through few points.

When was the last time you brought a flawless product let it be anything? I doubt that has happened anytime soon with anyone. So considering that we cross out the products perfection from this piece of the article altogether, maybe we shed some light on it someday later.

Let talk about humans, uh huh?

I am ready to take an open challenge for anyone who claims to be Mr or Ms Or Mrs Perfect, to prove them they aren’t one and frankly, no one needs to be completely perfect. We are imperfect for a specific reason and that is because the person with whom you will probably share your life has all the things perfect which you are imperfect at.

Let’s take one of my close friends examples, he is one the biggest nerd who is crazy about food and money, for most of the part he perfect for selection of food stuff but when it comes to financing man he is damn perfect about his level, I won’t say, he’s a  financial genius but he is perfect but he is damn imperfect when it comes to care for someone or have proper genuine feelings for a human being, man it is a big no-no when it comes to making a bond with girls especially. His response to this will be lame, if you have money you’ll get a girl, I agree he will surely get some hot lady but that person will be a gold digger (Gold Digger are people who make a relationship with anyone just for the sake of money). Initially when I was worried about this behaviour of his I tried to make him understand, manipulated him and what not but now I don’t take that initiative not because I’ve given up on him it is because I have learned the cycle of life, that one day the lady who will become in life which will be his forever will be perfect in that parameter of life. She will teach him how to be perfect with emotions.

Let’s take a plot summary from a movie, The Matchbreaker.

The guy who falls for a girl in high school ends up being in love her for the whole time, so whenever he gets into the relationship he ends up breaking them by giving 7 specific justification why the girl isn’t perfect. Later when the love of her life returns back into the town he comes across and a new bond develops between them eventually both falling for each other until one day he realises that she isn’t the perfect girl he pictured all the time she is one hell of a messy girl while organising thing at her home sweet home. This flaw starts disturbing him, but eventually, he learns that no one is perfect in this world, so he stays stuck to the fact she is the perfect one for him.

And yes, even I’m not perfect at all, for instance, I can tell areas where I’m the worst, that’s managing or organising things, I love things organised but for me, it is really hard to keep up with an organised place. There are few more things where I have tried my hand to be nearly as perfect but now I don’t even wanna be close to it, I just want to take that part be learned about it but do not want to be perfect about it.

I’m not at all trying to picture that the person who will be stuck with you for the rest of the life, just throw your imperfect responsibilities on them and leave it altogether rather you’ll learn about your flaw from someone which will actually make a difference in your life. And never ever be perfect in that thing because what’s your better half for then?

“Too late, I found you can’t wait to become perfect, you got to go out and fall down and get up with everybody else.”
― Ray Bradbury, Something Wicked This Way Comes

Peace! ~ αm

Hide and Seek!

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Today we all have a bad habit of hiding our feelings from the people whom we are close to. This is where we start to mess things up. But this is not the only issue we all face. We hide our feelings from our close ones and yet expect them to understand us, without we telling them what is going on in our mind. I agree, but does it really work this way?

As a kid, we end up doing some things that are not to be done at that particular age, but somehow we end up doing it. Eventually, we have a bag of mixed feelings. On one hand, feeling an accomplishment that none other kid has achieved what you have. On the other, fear of not letting parents have any knowledge of our mischief. So in the fear of how our parents will react, we start hiding things from parents. To save ourselves from the scare of our parent’s reaction, we hide our joyous accomplishment. This is just one feeling, this is how and where things start to build and hiding of our emotions.

Then, as you grow, you hit puberty and start falling for that adorable girl in your class or the cute guy next door. We talk to them with butterflies in our stomach but never dare to express our feelings in the panic/hesitation of hearing a ‘No’ from that person.

Let’s jump a few years when we are reasonably adult, in our mid-20s, trying to gather all our stuff in a perfect manner in which we have secretly dreamed off. Also somehow things are working in proper synchronisation as we expected over the years but then again coming to camouflaging our feelings, the close friend for whom you had fallen for eventually and dreamt of having a life together, we do not express ourselves fearing to lose that beautiful friendship.

We don’t share the disagreement in front of our boss and be his pet to save the job and gain extra bonus at the end of the year. We start hiding our feelings to our siblings in making them happy enough while struggling with our own mess.

So, next time try to be expressive to the people you care the most for and even make them comfortable to express. Because everyone’s heart somewhere wants to sing along this music piece.

If you love me, don’t let go
If you love me, don’t let go

Hold
Hold on
Hold on to me
‘Cause I’m a little unsteady
A little unsteady

Unsteady by X Ambassadors

Peace! ~ αm

Lies!

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We all lie one way or other every single day. Either we lie to someone dear or we lie to someone in our professional life or we lie to ourselves, but there isn’t a single day where a normal human being won’t lie.

We all lie due to some or the other reason. Right from childhood, we started lying, for instance; when we failed to complete our homework, we lied that we forgot to bring our notebook. Even our parents lied to us while bribing us to complete a house chore or to complete our studies. (I’m not saying they bribed always with lies many times they completed those bribes too but still). When we grew up we started lying at home, college about our academics, friends, outings and what not. The frequency of lying surge as we grow older, to hide one truth we end up saying more and more lies.

Before you start banging your head trying to know what am I really trying to address in here, I will come to point but just before that I would like to ask you a question.

Are you biased when your lie is for protecting the main cause of your own and when others lie on similar grounds we end up being offended?

If your answer is yes, it is completely Okay to behave in this manner as we are human beings. We’re selfish and to some extent being selfish is perfectly fine. The place where we are living we only receive genuine care from our parents because we are their kid (this line was shared my a close friend of mine), except than that the person who has given you the actual feeling of a parent can only give you those genuine care without being selfish. But still, we all will keep on lying to our kids or to whom we treat them as our kid.

We all know, what goes around comes back around, so if we eventually lie all the time we can not expect the person will shower up with all the truth.

Ask yourself once should we really get disturbed by a lie which has been revealed later with the truth? Today, I have an answer for this. We should not be disturbed for our whole life because we are all human beings and we all lie to each other just to keep a trust with our closed ones and later reveal it just because we need to take off the burden of lying in the first place and this only happens with the people with whom we have that beautiful connection. Surely we all should get disturbed with lies but also accept them at the level at which we got disturbed with the fact as one day you’ll be on the same stage where you placed the opposite person.

This is a life friend, and it is only when we realise it’s completely natural and genuine that the person who lied to us did so for the benefit of both. As once said, saying a single lie said for a genuine purpose is better than saying thousands of truth. So, do lie but make sure you are able to freely express the truth for whom you care and they can really understand the situation in which you had lied.

We all end up lying just to hide our actual feelings, thinking the truth will be a disaster for them. But learn to accept the lies and forgive them and tell the truth which you have lied about at the correct time.

There is quote, Hurt me with the truth but never comfort me with a Lie. I would like to rearrange them in more effective manner.

Hurt me with the Truth only when I am in a state of mind to accept it, as you are comforting me for my own good.

Peace! ~ αm

Me and My Shadow | 4

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Previously on Me and My Shadow

The Blueprint

Maya had a handful of thoughts running in her mind with the pen drive which Tej gave her back when they had their beautiful lunch. Even though she had the pen drive with her it was kinda difficult for her to open see it as she was scared that the data in it would have meant something really different than what she was expecting.

She didn’t try taking a look at what is inside but used to just mingle around with thoughts. Many times she even plugged in but did not have gut’s open it. Maya herself was shocked by her own behaviour regarding such simple thing.

She looked at herself in the mirror decided to simply put the thoughts aside and concentrate on the thing which she wants to do in her life. She decides to give a final thought on how she will ask for the permission from her Dad regarding the factory which they owned but is currently shut down. She has few ideas which are running in for that place, she is looking forward to making it in something exclusive so that she can concentrate on the dream she is chasing for.

Maya finally gathers all the courage and leaves for her Dad’s Office. As she arrives read the huge name on entrance “Maya’s Dune Resort”. And she started to get those extra privilege services after all this resort was her own, she was the owner of this magnificent hotel. After getting into the hotel every staff member was greeting her with all the amenable gesture and finally she reaches her Dad’s office and as usual, he was busy in managing something, and why won’t be busy 31st December celebrations were on adjacent week itself.

Seeing her daughter waiting for him, he freezes all his work and calls her in. He was happy thinking that Maya was ready to join him in hotel business line but he didn’t recognise she was here to ask him something.

“Dad, I need a small favour from you?” Maya, asks him.

“Yes, tell me.” He answered.

“I know you won’t be keen what I am asking for but can you let me use our factory?”

“Umm, can I know the reason for the use?” His happiness suddenly disappears as her daughter has asked him this same question before she left the house.

“Sure Dad, and I assure this time I won’t leave the house even if you reject my proposal. I want my working space, Dad. For doing all my stuff like designing, my small research and development lab kind of thing, and need to start filling my paper works for all this work too.” Maya answered.

After a short silence between them, he finally agreed to Maya and said, “OK. You can use the factory for any use you want but assure me you won’t take any wrong step this time.”

“Dad, I’m going to fit security cameras as I’m looking for expensive equipment in R&D lab, if you want you can take a feed at your office too. It will be a bonus for the security of equipment and as well as you will be assured of actions.” Maya tried to assure her dad this time she is full of energy and at the same time isn’t looking for trouble.

“Done. I trust you my love but…” quickly replied her Dad but had a little trouble telling his views about her concern. “Yeah Dad, I know what you mean to say I’m giving you the complete picture of what I am doing, I’ve lost your trust and I’ll regain it in a rightful manner.” Maya knew what she was doing so it was easier for her to give that confidence to her Dad.

After both of them agreeing on the terms they discussed, Maya was full of joy and had decided to call up the equipment manufacturer for her little lab and headed to a furniture store and computer to get her all the things she needed. The joy of getting her dad’s approval was way too much then she had expected.

That whole day Maya was out ordering several things from her new place of work. Later at night when she came home her father saw the happiness of Maya making him realise that it was correct decision that he took for factory this time. In the following days, Maya was pretty much occupied in the setting up of the place, she wanted to start the actual work from the New Year, giving her life a new start. All this time she was having the blueprints of the work in her thoughts but now it was coming up true.

In the meanwhile Tej was not sure what was going on with Maya she was not in contact with him. Tej assumed that the project he shared was the reason behind Maya disconnection with him. It was until Tej got more upset when Maya called him up on Monday afternoon to confirm things regarding the class they were having that evening, she spoke about the class but didn’t spoke a word regarding the pen drive.

In reality, Maya had forgotten about the pen drive altogether in her own happiness. When they met before class that day Tej understood that something great has happened with Maya just by the glow on her face. Soon, Maya told Tej about all the things which happened in the last couple of days. Tej’s heart sank as Maya did not pull up the topic of his project but at the same time he was happy about the happiness of Maya.

It was just 2 days left before 31st December so Tej was occupied a lot at the hotel still Maya insisted him to come to the factory for seeing the blueprint turned into the reality of Maya’s small dream. When Tej visited the place with Maya, he no longer could control the ignorance he was having regarding the things which he had in his mind, so Tej asked her “Maya, did you go through the pen drive?” after this question Maya realised that she altogether forgot about the pen drive. She apologised for the ignorance but Tej seem to be off the mood now so he asks Maya to give back the pen drive and Tej soon leaves after collecting the pen drive.

“Tej! Tej! Stop!” yelled Maya as she saw him walk out of the factory door. “Give me the pen drive, I’ll go through it right away.”

But her requests went unheard, Tej had already left!

Maya knew that she had disappointed the only person who actually cared about her. She even knew that she really had to do something to make it up to him. New years’ eve wouldn’t be complete without him. She stood leaning on the door thinking as to what had to be done next.

She obviously wanted to know Tej’s plan but first she had to get her friend back!

Peace! ~ αm ft. @365days365stories

Me and My Shadow | 3

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Previously on Me and My Shadow

The Treat

“Mumma…” Maya called out to her mom in a melodious voice.

Maya’s mom was shocked to see her daughter smile early in the morning. It had been a pretty long time she had woken up to Maya’s smile.

“Mumma could you please make a nice masala tea”, Maya chirped as she started applying butter to her break.

Her mom quickly started preparing the tea and suddenly felt wrapped in the warmth of her daughter’s arms.

Maya was hugging her mom.

“Maya, my dear, what is the matter with you today?” Her mom asked her.

“You remember Tej? I’ll be meeting him in a while. We were even talking over the phone last night, and I’m really looking forward to spending today’s day with him. It’s been ages since I’ve felt so much at home”, said Maya as she gasped for breath. She was so excited that she even forgot to breathe.

Her mom was so happy for her but at the same time a little bit worried. Her daughter was entering unknown territories which she had no clue led to which place. *typical parents*

On the other hand, Maya was jubilant and excited. She searched her entire wardrobe and got out her most lovely dress. The black one piece that had been saving for a special occasion. That day she decided to let her hair loose and even applied some kajal in her eyes. Maya hadn’t felt so beautiful in a while, but today she was in a mood to doll up.

Maya grabbed her keys and her phone and bid farewell to her mom. She then sat in her car, put on her seat belt, turned on her phone and then called Tej.

She then sat in her car, put on her seat belt, turned on her phone and then called Tej.“Hello”, said Maya.

“Hello”, said Maya. “Hello? Have you seen the time?” came Tej’s voice from the other side. “You were supposed to pick me up at 10. It’s already 11 and to top it your phone was switched off.”

“I’m sorry, I overslept. I’ll be there in 15 mins” Maya said and hung up even before Tej could say anything.As she said, she was at his place in 15 mins, and he was waiting for her.

As she said, she was at his place in 15 mins, and he was waiting for her.

Maya had dolled up, but Tej had decided to ditch the jeans for a comfortable pair of tracks and an incredibly loose t-shirt.He sat in Maya’s car and looked at her in surprise, “Hello, madam? Are you going to some party?” asked Tej. “No. I was just feeling pretty.” Smiled Maya.

Then Maya drove him to a charming restaurant about an hour away from their home. They had never been here. He asked her as to how did she know about the place. Smiling, she said, “I had a life before we met Tej.” This restaurant was among the fancy ones. The types we go on a special occasion.

“Maya, you could have at least told me we would be coming to such a place. I would have dressed up accordingly” Tej said in a hushed voice. “Don’t worry Tej. The owner of this place is my dad friend. No formalities required. Chill.” Maya comforted him and tried to make him feel at home.They ordered lunch as per their wish. Surprisingly Maya’s and Tej’s tastes were completely different, yet they got along so well.

When the bill came, Tej leant in to grab it, but Maya was quick.“My treat!” She exclaimed. “But why? And from when did you start giving lunch treats?” Tej asked, confused. “Just. There is no compulsion that you will pay always. Let me pay today.” Maya said. Tej chose not to argue with her and let her do as she wished.

On their way back home, Maya stopped by the river that flowed through their city. “I want to look at the sunset,” Maya said.

“Okay”, Tej said. As it is today’s day was dedicated to Maya. So he thought it would be a good idea to do things that made her happy. As they sat along the banks of the river and waited for the sun to disappear over the horizon, Tej put his hand on Maya’s shoulder and again looked at her. This time Maya also looked right back into his eyes. He then put his hand in his pocket and brought out a Pen Drive.

On the pen drive was scribbled the words “Project MAYA”.

“This is my dream Maya. This is my life and only you can make it happen.” Said Tej.

“Why such a mystery Tej? Why can’t you tell me what is it about?” Maya was full of questions.

“I need you to go through each and every file in this pen drive. This, Maya, is what will turn our lives around. This is the wake-up call, and there is no better person I would want to be a part of it.” Tej said in a serious voice.

“Okay, I’ll study it. And yeah, I’ll always be there without you no matter what” Maya promised and hugged him.

Maya knew that she was right when she thought that Tej wasn’t in love with her. In fact, there was a wider picture of it. She just wasn’t able to see through it. But how could she even have, Tej has always been the mysterious kinds. What she was sure of was that now that he had opened up, her life was bound to take an entirely different course.

As the sun set, it was time for them to get home leaving the past behind while walking towards a bright future.

That night, the air in Maya’s room was filled with confidence and faith – self-confidence and trust in her best friend, Tej.

Me and My Shadow | 1

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Maya

Sitting on the Edge of her home’s terrace, Maya was scribbling few numbers in a small diary. Seeing the sun started to rise, it was time for the girl to move back to her room. Taking a deep breath she leaves the terrace and sneaks into her room quietly, ensuring she does not wake up her parents. She laid back on her bed pretending to be asleep.

After a certain amount of time, her father woke up and left for his morning jog and mother entered the kitchen after her daily morning chores. Soon, Maya also entered the kitchen took some cheese spread applied over the bread and started to eat.

“Maya, Maya… MAYA!”. The girl’s attention is finally sought by her mother.

“Yes, Mom.”

“What were you daydreaming about again?”

“Nothing.”

“No need to lie to me, Maya.”

“Seriously Mom, I wasn’t dreaming about anything.”

“Fine, pass me the box of Cereals.”

Maya gives the box and leaves the table to get ready. As she is about to quit her Mother inquires where she is headed to but without even answering anything she leaves.

She drives to an isolated place where her farther’s old factory was located near a river side in her silver coloured hatchback. Entering the premises she sits back at the office where her dad once used to sit once and opens her dairy to continue the work from where she left it in the morning.

She is deeply involved in the work she has been doing until her phone starts ringing. She answers the call, “Hello.” “Hey! Where are you?” “Umm, you know where I am.” “Oh, that muck factory” “Yes. Tell why you called up?” “To ask you if you are gonna pick up your sloth face and come down to classes today?” “Of course, I’ll come down I wait for this class the whole week” “OK! So, now will you start moving otherwise you’ll be late for it then.” “Yeah I’ve already wrapped up my things and sitting in the car” “Cool, see you there. Bye” “Ba-Bye Tej.”

Tej was her best friend, but they had this weird connection which made Maya rely on him too high extend. Tej meet Maya when she had left her house and had headed to a different city after a huge issue which had to happen back her place making her take a huge step, but after she meets Tej, she decided to go back home. Tej had known everything about Maya in the last couple or years, but on the contrary, Maya hardly knew anything about Tej except he was the Sous Chef at a reputed restaurant and tech-savvy to good extend.

They both meet up just outside the gate of classes and have their usual conversation about the class and then head to the class. The classes were of product design. The only reason Tej accompanied her to this class was that he can learn things about the subject and Maya can have that perfect person to whom she can share her ideas in all.

After classes had got over, they go out for dinner at their usual spot, where Maya shows the design she had been working on from last couple weeks. Soon they finish up their discussion and dinner making it a perfect time to head back home.

On their way back home, Maya offered to drop Tej home rather than the usual bus stop drops, but instead caught him staring right at her. On asking what was he looking at so intently, he just shrugged and simply said “You!”, And once again the chef had balanced his emotions so precisely that Maya couldn’t distinguish one from the another. He still continued to be a mystery to her.

Peace! ~ αm ft. @365days365stories