So what’s wrong?

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A couple of weeks back I shared something which I usually don’t share with anyone. Yes, anyone. And no I am not making public that thoughts and emotions of mine here today too.

Many of my friends who know me will not be able to digest the fact that I am still holding onto few pages of my life in my open book personality, and that’s the way I have handled many ins outs of my life without getting hammered by the critics of people around me.

So whats wrong in it if I am still not disclosing the pages of my life?
so when a couple of weeks, back when I showed those pages to a really close friend who I know from past nine years old I felt she will be able to grasp the actual scenario in which those good and ugly pages were written.

But boy, I was wrong about it as even she misunderstood me just like my best friend who I lost last year for related delusions. So now I am asking the reader, that if I have some good and ugly pages written in past and writing few at this current moment due to I have certain traits in my personality which are not common for general people, am I wrong to have them? Or I haven’t met someone who can match my wavelength?

Today I am not writing this to accuse two best female friends here, but I am just trying to get the gist of the good and ugly pages are part of everyone’s book of life. So for the first time, I am actually asking you, my lovely readers, to throw in some light, how one should really appreciate those pages without jumping to a wrong conclusion.

Thank you in advance.

Don’t tell someone about your good side to make them stay.

Tell them about your worst side and see who stays!

~ Anonymous

(P.S.: This is typed by a real close friend of mine as I dictated her, due to personal reasons and she has only published it on behalf of me. She stubborn not to add Feature Image for this one. Anyways, thanks V for hitting the publish button.)

Peace! ~ αm

 

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Huh! Okay, whatever!

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So yesterday I decided to give a good friend of mine the taste of her own medicine and today she feels so bad that she ended up sending me this mail. It’s really funny how people get furious when people start treating them the way they treat others.

Dear M,

See I’m not trying to rant you but, I’m just trying to show the major difference between me and everyone.
I don’t mind at all that you didn’t call back yesterday even after mentioning that you will call me in evening.

But this is the thing which makes me angry did I asked you to give hope to call me yesterday, NO! still you gave me hope you’ll call me I on purpose didn’t reply you I wanted to show why I get pissed off (PS I didn’t get pissed off yesterday, or maybe in future I won’t be angry on anyone, because I know how anyone will simply screw the hopes they give for me only)

PLEASE UNDERSTAND I AM JUST TRYING TO MAKE MY POINT AND NOT GETTING PISSED OFF ON YOU.

I never asked any closed ones to give me hope by saying “I’ll do this for your birthday” “You are the most important person on earth to me” “I’ll be there for you at the mall” “Man, you are the best brother I ever got” “You are the best husband you’ll ever be” and endless such compliments and hopes which people tend to give me they are all simply words, and no actions on it! That’s where I lose my anger, I agree I’ve got anger issues at the same time my anger is genuine I feel. I feel it’s human nature too if I’m saying that “I’ll be doing XYZ for you” and if I don’t do the person whom I told this will surely fell bad about it.

Same way it happens to me people tell me endless things, the people who I value, that people words are in my heart and when that action is needed I tend to expect from them and not from the weird person I don’t like from my class to take an action on the words he once said to me.

That’s the whole deal with hopes and expectation, whatever the reason the person has when he or she does not obey that words they gave once to the closed ones, in the end, it matters who obey their very own words and not take the necessary action on it. That’s all I ask of anyone I never ask them to gift me a freaking MacBook Pro or a diamond-studded platinum ring.

Obey your own words.

Regards,

*********

P.S.: I really loved that I got a letter but a letter which is indirectly telling me that I pissed her off is simply great! Girls or ladies will never be able to see their own mistakes.

My reply to this mail was the most blunt answer ever: Huh! Okay, whatever!

I’m surely gonna get more threat mails from her in coming future. After this post going live.

Peace! ~ αm

Lies!

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We all lie one way or other every single day. Either we lie to someone dear or we lie to someone in our professional life or we lie to ourselves, but there isn’t a single day where a normal human being won’t lie.

We all lie due to some or the other reason. Right from childhood, we started lying, for instance; when we failed to complete our homework, we lied that we forgot to bring our notebook. Even our parents lied to us while bribing us to complete a house chore or to complete our studies. (I’m not saying they bribed always with lies many times they completed those bribes too but still). When we grew up we started lying at home, college about our academics, friends, outings and what not. The frequency of lying surge as we grow older, to hide one truth we end up saying more and more lies.

Before you start banging your head trying to know what am I really trying to address in here, I will come to point but just before that I would like to ask you a question.

Are you biased when your lie is for protecting the main cause of your own and when others lie on similar grounds we end up being offended?

If your answer is yes, it is completely Okay to behave in this manner as we are human beings. We’re selfish and to some extent being selfish is perfectly fine. The place where we are living we only receive genuine care from our parents because we are their kid (this line was shared my a close friend of mine), except than that the person who has given you the actual feeling of a parent can only give you those genuine care without being selfish. But still, we all will keep on lying to our kids or to whom we treat them as our kid.

We all know, what goes around comes back around, so if we eventually lie all the time we can not expect the person will shower up with all the truth.

Ask yourself once should we really get disturbed by a lie which has been revealed later with the truth? Today, I have an answer for this. We should not be disturbed for our whole life because we are all human beings and we all lie to each other just to keep a trust with our closed ones and later reveal it just because we need to take off the burden of lying in the first place and this only happens with the people with whom we have that beautiful connection. Surely we all should get disturbed with lies but also accept them at the level at which we got disturbed with the fact as one day you’ll be on the same stage where you placed the opposite person.

This is a life friend, and it is only when we realise it’s completely natural and genuine that the person who lied to us did so for the benefit of both. As once said, saying a single lie said for a genuine purpose is better than saying thousands of truth. So, do lie but make sure you are able to freely express the truth for whom you care and they can really understand the situation in which you had lied.

We all end up lying just to hide our actual feelings, thinking the truth will be a disaster for them. But learn to accept the lies and forgive them and tell the truth which you have lied about at the correct time.

There is quote, Hurt me with the truth but never comfort me with a Lie. I would like to rearrange them in more effective manner.

Hurt me with the Truth only when I am in a state of mind to accept it, as you are comforting me for my own good.

Peace! ~ αm

Where!?

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We all go through a phase of life where we not even a kid anymore not even mature enough to take our own discussions in our life (making it a bit awful!) So what really happening with us at this point in our life? I do not know what conclusion you may have concluded to, but I feel we are just trying to flip our life downside up or rather we can say, we are trying to balance our life between the maturity and immaturity. And this is what exactly we are doing in our life we are going insanely crazy, doing everything yet doing nothing.

Yes, we are at the age of early 20s to 25s, which is the dawn of your active crazy youth and a beginning of career-oriented life and you all will agree this is the best day’s of our life and yes with few worst day’s included in our package of best days. But the drill of our life is to achieve something in our life more than regretting the things which we never achieved or we did not attempt to do it.

We all have certain goals which may be a temporary goal or one which infused in our DNA, and yes, of course, there are few people without any goals at all. And with these goals, we get an extra bonus of pressure from people around us, with their various suggestion and expectation, is this what we are really expecting from them? The answer for most of us will is an NO as we want to play the game of life with our terms and condition. The struggle is so hard in maintaining all this is high enough to break down us fairly easily, but those who manage this struggle without really breaking down are the true heroes in their own lives.

People in this age frame are doing the most of the life like falling in love, getting married, having heartbreaks, losing virginity (with any medium), getting high, crying over lonliness, enjoying a new independence, joining a new job, screwing a job and giving a long shot for a developing a business (today, we call business as Start-Ups but they will remain as Business only), seeing other chasing the dreams, seeing other living a dream which we had once, trying to save money for future and then spending off that money on emergency situation, living lavishly on months start and on financial crunch at month end, shifting to a new city or state or country. The list is never ending in every aspect.

We simply struggle to find the correct path of life just to be Happy. Is it true to be Happy? I seriously doubt this we are in a race to be better than others because right from our childhood we are just compared regarding each and every aspect whether it may be our academic score or our extracurricular activities. This attitude of being better than others is somewhere sulking down on our day to day life in an indirect way.

But all this ain’t answering where we headed to in our life. So to sum all this I would like to mention that the best answer where we should head is, chase that dream which you always wanted to live in a smart way while being crazy enough to say to your grandchild that I do not have regrets about my life.

We all want the presence of love and care in our life but we keep running behind money and satisfaction to be maintained.

Believe in a Happier Tomorrow!

PEACE! ~ αm