So today morning I was at a Medical Store for buying medicine for usual cold, and the next thing which happened didn’t shake me but surely made me raise the question on the current generation. The incident was, a girl in her sweet sixteen comes up and ask for a contraceptive pill. Have we become desperate enough that we are exploring sex as if it is just a casual thing?

The next thing I know I got the flashback of when I first kissed a girl. The first question that struck my mind was, what age I was when I had my first kiss? It was in my early 22s, surely it was a special girl but the thing was we both were mature enough of what we are doing. I am not trying to say I’m some saint who did things on right time. But surely trying out things with someone at a really early age and taking contraceptive pills in early age will bring issues in the later stage of the life when you’ll be really seeking to conceive a child (which is the best feeling you may surely have).

Roam around the lover spots in your city and you’ll find at least 25% couple who are physically involved with each other in public. That’s completely fine to show love to that special one but we should know when and where we are doing so, there’s nothing wrong with showing affection to someone we know in front of other people but at the same time we should realise in what mindset of people we are in, are they open minded than cheap thinking people who may just pass a comment like “Wow, great live show! No need to watch porn tonight.” (I’ve actually heard this line getting used for a couple while I was movie theatre with my friends)

A decade before, couples were really shy to holds hands in public and now we are on edge of making love in public, sorry I said making love, rather I should say having sex. Now with an eye towards the western world approach we’ve started taking things in a lighter way. One of the example which strike while writing so is that due to the climatic condition in the west women wears a bikini for so-called Sunbath. Whereas we do not need such a trend because it’s warmer here. But we fail to recognize this reality and think that we’re being oppressed when not being supported.

One thing is for sure we all have surely lost of making moments special because we are seeking sexual pleasure rather than seeking gala moment just at the fitting time. Anytime someone tries to seek advice from me over the topic of sex only speech gets played in my mind from a very infamous movie, 17 Again. 

That tiny speech is “No. No. You know what? He’s right. He’s right. I don’t need one. You know why? You know why I don’t need one? Because there’s no one I’m in love with. It’s called ‘making love’ isn’t it? Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but I think that means you do it with someone you love… and preferably when you’re married. You know? When you’re ready to take that love and turn it into a baby.Because that’s what love is. It’s that first moment when you hold your baby girl and you didn’t know that anything could be so small or so delicate and you feel that tiny heartbeat and you know that you couldn’t love anything more in the whole world. And you hope that you can do right by that little girl and always be there to catch her when she falls and that nothing ever hurts her. Not a broken arm, or a bad dream, or a broken heart.” (Full Script / Youtube Clip)

I’d a friend who was just in a relationship so that he can sleep with the girl every now and then, I spoke to him once what exactly are you trying to seek with this kinda relation, he simply answered it is better to be a sex addict than being a drug addict. That answer of his shook me, not because he felt sex is better than drug but he felt sex should be an addiction which he should enjoy on regular basis.

There are many such incidences which I’ve heard from girls and guys while growing up and their perspective on what sex is for them, and every time I come across the views it makes me think only one thing. Have we become so desperate for sex?

What are we actually doing? Does anyone know?

“I guess it’s exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex — yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It’s healthy, it’s natural, it’s what we are here to do.” – Cameron Diaz

Peace! ~ αm