We all lie one way or other every single day. Either we lie to someone dear or we lie to someone in our professional life or we lie to ourselves, but there isn’t a single day where a normal human being won’t lie.
We all lie due to some or the other reason. Right from childhood, we started lying, for instance; when we failed to complete our homework, we lied that we forgot to bring our notebook. Even our parents lied to us while bribing us to complete a house chore or to complete our studies. (I’m not saying they bribed always with lies many times they completed those bribes too but still). When we grew up we started lying at home, college about our academics, friends, outings and what not. The frequency of lying surge as we grow older, to hide one truth we end up saying more and more lies.
Before you start banging your head trying to know what am I really trying to address in here, I will come to point but just before that I would like to ask you a question.
Are you biased when your lie is for protecting the main cause of your own and when others lie on similar grounds we end up being offended?
If your answer is yes, it is completely Okay to behave in this manner as we are human beings. We’re selfish and to some extent being selfish is perfectly fine. The place where we are living we only receive genuine care from our parents because we are their kid (this line was shared my a close friend of mine), except than that the person who has given you the actual feeling of a parent can only give you those genuine care without being selfish. But still, we all will keep on lying to our kids or to whom we treat them as our kid.
We all know, what goes around comes back around, so if we eventually lie all the time we can not expect the person will shower up with all the truth.
Ask yourself once should we really get disturbed by a lie which has been revealed later with the truth? Today, I have an answer for this. We should not be disturbed for our whole life because we are all human beings and we all lie to each other just to keep a trust with our closed ones and later reveal it just because we need to take off the burden of lying in the first place and this only happens with the people with whom we have that beautiful connection. Surely we all should get disturbed with lies but also accept them at the level at which we got disturbed with the fact as one day you’ll be on the same stage where you placed the opposite person.
This is a life friend, and it is only when we realise it’s completely natural and genuine that the person who lied to us did so for the benefit of both. As once said, saying a single lie said for a genuine purpose is better than saying thousands of truth. So, do lie but make sure you are able to freely express the truth for whom you care and they can really understand the situation in which you had lied.
We all end up lying just to hide our actual feelings, thinking the truth will be a disaster for them. But learn to accept the lies and forgive them and tell the truth which you have lied about at the correct time.
There is quote, Hurt me with the truth but never comfort me with a Lie. I would like to rearrange them in more effective manner.
Hurt me with the Truth only when I am in a state of mind to accept it, as you are comforting me for my own good.
Peace! ~ αm